Friendship is... || Perspective
Now don’t get me wrong, I have always loved the way I was raised and the ideals that I believe in. Growing up, there was always this stigma about being ride or die for your friends. Finding the friends, although it may be few, that really stick up for you, fight for you, and will always be there for you, regardless of what happens. And I guess, when that’s all you know, it can get hard trying to understand and learn that not everyone, maybe not even anyone will ever reciprocate that feeling or notion it back to you.
I know that friendship is not about what you receive in return, but it is about what and how much you put into it. Friendship is love and one of the key aspects of loving is sacrificing yourself to let those that you love, feel loved. In fact, I believe that is one of the most important things about friendship. Showing and sharing that love and appreciation towards the people that have not only helped shape who you are, but have also impacted your life. But as time goes on, especially within these past few months and even these past two years, I have really had time to think and realize how tiring friendships can be and what it truly means to be a friend for life.
If you didn’t already know, last year I moved across the country to Savannah, Georgia to chase my dreams. And as much as this experience has been fun and knowledgeable, it has also made me come to realize a lot of things, especially on the topic of friendship. Through every trial and problem that I have faced, I have always taken pride in the fact that I have such an amazing support system around me and I still believe that to this day. But as I continue my journey through life, the people that I keep around and see as true friends grow smaller and smaller as each day passes.
I feel as though as a friend there comes a certain responsibility you have towards others. Being a friend means a lot of things. It means never forgetting about the important things, being reliant for others when they need you most, and most importantly, it’s always remembering to make the conscious effort to show them that you care and will try for them. Friendship is not about what you receive, but it is simply about what you give.
There are many kinds of friendships in this world. In fact, have you ever met someone where you knew from the very first moment you guys have shared that they were going to be someone that you wanted to keep in your life? Or the kind of friendships where you have known one another forever and do not need to speak every single day to know you guys will remain friends? Each friendship is different and set apart. It varies between each pair and on each person within it, but ultimately how you choose to care and maintain that relationship is ultimately up to the two of you.
You can be the kind of friend where you both talk to each other every single day. You can be the kind of friend that does not talk at all. You can even be the kind of friend where you are only needed in times of emergency. But regardless of what kind of friend you choose to be, the most important thing is that you still remember to show the love that you have for one another.
At the end of the day, friendship is love and sometimes all anyone ever needs is for someone to be there. So hit up that person you have not talked to in awhile, forgive those that have hurt you, and let them know that everything will be okay.